You’re either perceived as a sexual being or you’re not… and most guys are not!
You’re probably one of them!
You might be good-looking, well-spoken, fashionable, intelligent and charming, but if you’re incapable of expressing your sexuality then you will never, ever escape the ‘friends zone’.
You will never, ever be perceived as anything more than a ‘great guy’.
But if a woman in your life was asked quite bluntly, “Would you fuck him?” Her face would scrunch up and she would pull that bemused expression that says, ‘I just don’t see him like that’.
Because you’ve totally lost touch with your sexuality and your sexual expression!
Make no mistake about it, you ARE a sexual being!
You can’t avoid it, your sexuality is part of the essence of who you are.
It determines who you’re attracted to and how your mind operates. But if it’s hidden, so is a huge aspect of who you are!
It means your less comfortable in your own skin than you might be, less free in expressing yourself from your core and almost certainly less happy.
When you walk up to a woman you’re attracted to and begin an interaction, she needs to know that you are a sexual being and the only way she can know that is through the way that you express yourself.
She needs to feel the sexuality of your expression, that you can penetrate her very being, just as you would if you were fucking her.
She needs to feel your gaze looking deep inside of her.
She needs to feel your smile caressing her.
She needs to feel the verbal expression of your attraction piercing her psyche.
She needs to feel the charge and excitement in your touch.
She needs to feel the incisiveness of your teasing.
In all of these ways and more she needs to feel penetrated by you. If none of this is present than she simply sees you as just ‘another guy’, asexual and unpolarising.
How in tune with your sexuality are you really?
How deeply can you feel the attraction inside you when you converse?
How much can you allow it to manifest within the conversation throughout all the communication channels, verbal and non-verbal?
This is not a difficult thing to do. All it requires is focus, attention and presence.
Where focus goes energy flows.
The more attention you bring to your sexuality, the more attention that you bring to the sexual feeling in your body and the attraction that you feel for the woman in front of you, the more that sexuality will ooze out of you!
Once you tap into your sexuality in this way you’ll transcend being just ‘another guy’ and women will begin to perceive you as a sexual threat.
Not an undesirable sexual threat but a desirable one.
Someone who is in tune with the rhythm of his body and unashamed to feel and express his sexuality.
The attraction a woman may feel for you is worthless without arousal, and arousal is nowhere to be found until you dial into your sexuality and begin to express yourself as a sexual being.
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