Authentic Man Within (AMW) is a dating advice and coaching service for men in London that helps men become more courageous, more socially intuitive, more authentic, happier and healthier.
It was set up by Sebastian Callow in September 2009 as a result of his continuing exploration of dating and social dynamics, and in response to the growing need for men to embrace their masculine core and connect with women face-to-face rather than hide behind their computer screens and play the online dating game.
AMW has been growing ever since, attracting clients from all parts of the UK, Europe and even the USA. Unlike other dating services AMW provides a practical, real life coaching experience. Clients receive first hand, live demonstrations of how to approach women and are invited to do the same under constructive supervision.
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Sebastian Callow – Founder and Personal Dating Coach
As the founder and primary coach at AMW, Sebastian has a great history of exploring social psychology and social dynamics, both in theory and through his life experience. An Applied Psychology graduate from the University of Durham and an aspiring Psychotherapist, Sebastian has also spent 4 years working in the face-to-face fundraising industry.
This means, on top of his theoretical understanding of human behaviour, he has spent 4 years approaching strangers, for 8 hours a day and five days a week. Throughout this period he also worked as a Team Leader coaching other people to do the same each and every day.
Subsequently, he has attained three years experience working directly with men to help them awaken the courage and conviction to approach and connect with women, and receives glowing reviews. His style of interaction, and the one he tries to instill in his clients, is one of being direct, playful and authentic.
Sebastian feels that when a man’s external expressions most closely match his internal state, he will communicate with the most power, clarity and depth. In-turn, he will generate the highest levels of attraction and connection with the women he relates to, and his comfort and ease within himself will be at a premium.
Moreover, Sebastian feels that by approaching a woman honestly and authentically a man can lay the best foundation for establishing a healthy relationship that is nourishing at the deepest levels for everyone concerned.
Sebastian understands the trials and tribulations modern men face in the dating game. All the more so as he himself has experienced these problems first hand, describing himself very much as a late bloomer:
“I’m 31 years old now and I wasn’t always successful with women. At 19 I was still a virgin and at 25 I found myself in the midst of a very long spell of unintentional celibacy. At this stage I had begun to invest a whole lot of time in learning how to relate to women in a more powerful way.
I would spend my free time going out three to four times a week, for several hours on each occasion, and approaching every attractive woman I came across.
After a lot of stress and strain I became pretty successful at getting what I thought I wanted. However, I soon realised that I wanted more than just sex, and that the need for sex often had a corrosive effect on my interactions. I would often lose out with the women who I was really attracted to.
I found that the answer to deep connection was to abandon all need; the need to have sex, the need for female attention, and the need to be seen as someone who is successful with women.
In abandoning what I thought I needed I sunk back into my fullness, feeling absolutely whole and absolutely satisfied. The feeling of contentment, absent of need, is what allows for the deepest connection with another human being.
And paradoxically, the lack of attachment to any particular outcome, allows for whatever outcome is desired, to be fulfilled.”
Sebastian is AMW’s resident expert when it comes to creating a deep emotional connection with women. He has written over 80 articles on the AMW blog on dating, social dynamics, relationships and psychology.
His writing strikes at the heart of the problems that modern men face when it comes to relating to women and has been featured in a diverse array of publications, from Ebony Magazine to the work of Laura Schaefer who regularly writes for Match.com.
Sebastian firmly believes that men already have everything they need to succeed in the dating game, it’s just a case of awakening the Authentic Man Within.
In each and every man lies depths of courageousness, spontaneity and authenticity. Sebastian aims to point men back toward these innate strengths so that they can enliven themselves and the women they interact with.
Miki T. – Expert in Sexual Polarity and Personal Dating Coach
Miki is long time student of David Deida and a master in the arts of cultivating and working with sexual energy. Having attended several of David Deida’s live events and worked extensively with Michalea Boehm and Eli Buren in exploring sexual intimacy and sexual polarity, Miki has acquired a remarkable ability to polarise attraction between himself and the women he relates to.
Like Sebastian, Miki has spent a long time putting his abilities to trial in real life situations and acquired a depth of history in approaching women in any and every situation, whether it be on the street, at the bus stop, in a book store or in a cafe.
It is this commitment and dedication to exploring social dynamics experientially that makes Miki the only person, other than Sebastian, who is trusted to conduct personal coaching sessions with guys wanting to better their dating lives.
Miki brings an extra level of diversity and insight to AMW, particularly in highlighting the nuances of non-verbal communication conveyed through eye contact, stillness and presence. His attention to detail greatly aids others in recognising unconscious patterns of behaviour that may be hindering their interactions and their ability to polarise attraction with the women they relate to.
Miki’s style of interaction is to be direct and challenging. Rather than inauthentically trying to establish rapport on subjects which he has no interest in, he prefers to challenge the women he interacts with to see if there is space for a genuine connection. It is this kind of brash realism that he likes to instill in others.
At AMW we have come to accept Miki as the resident expert on the subject of sex, cultivating the sexual energy through Taoist practices, and having deep, long lasting sexual encounters.
Sam N. – Technical Director and AMW Inspiration
Sam is a fully fledged entrepreneur and the founder and CEO of Hoopsfix. Aside from his technical ability in web development and business, Sam has a wealth of experience in the field of dating and brings fresh perspectives on lifestyle design to AMW.
The stories of Sam’s dating and relationship adventures are a constant source of inspiration for the content we provide here on AMW. As a man with an ability to create deep and lasting connections in an authentic and healthy way, Sam’s abilities and core values are perfectly in alignment with what we aim to establish in our clients and the AMW ethos.
Sam is a long time believer in the ‘Location Independent Lifestyle’ and creating a life of freedom, fun and adventure. He prefers to live a life where he is not dependent an employer or a mortgage and is free to travel and explore whatever he wants, whenever he wants.
His insights about transcending the everyday grind of having a day job you hate and very little freedom are likely to feature more often on the AMW blog in the future. Sam believes, as we do, that freedom is something that should permeate all areas of your life, not just your dating.
Unmani – Source of Feminine Wisdom and AMW Inspiration
Unmani is well known and respected around the world as a dial of Truth. She holds meetings and intensives in which people are invited to explore the nature of experience, operating from her site Die to Love. Those who have attended her meetings have been deeply touched by her gentle but direct pointing toward the experience of life beyond thought.
While it’s probably true that Unmani wouldn’t agree with everything that’s ever been promoted here at AMW, she is very much supportive of what we do and offers new levels of depth to the discussion and content that we deliver.
At AMW we like to maintain some kind of equilibrium, and no one helps us do that better than Unmani. As an incredibly wise and evolved woman, Unmani offers us a deep insight into what women really want at their core and how this manifests in different and sometimes confusing ways.
Unmani has helped greatly in pervading AMW with the knowledge that a man must be absolutely sensitive to a woman’s emotional needs, above and beyond what she communicates verbally, if he is to create happiness in her and also in himself.
It is this level of insight that has led to an evolution in the quality of relationships created by the members of AMW, and it is this level of insight which we aim to pass on to you.