Sebastian Callow – A.M.W. Founder – Dating Coach London

I’m 30 years old now and I wasn’t always successful with women. At the age of 19 I was still a virgin and at 25 I found myself in the midst of a very long spell of unintentional celibacy. At this stage I had begun to invest a whole lot of time in learning how to relate to women in a more powerful way.

I would go out three to four times a week for several hours at a time and approach every beautiful woman I saw. After a lot of stress and strain I became very successful at getting what I thought I wanted. To my discredit, in my 25th year, I became something of a sleazy player.

It took me quite some time to realise that I wanted more than just casual sex, and that in essence casual sex is nothing more than assisted masturbation. I must have spent a good a good three or four years being, well, a bit of a wanker! Slowly but surely I realised that my wanting for women was merely a symptom of a longing to feel whole.

It also become clear that if I truly wanted to enjoy all the depth and beauty of a woman, my desire to feel whole would have to be met. In recent times I have paid close attention to all my apparent needs; the need to have sex, the need for female attention, and the need to be seen as someone who is successful with women. As I have abandoned each one of these apparent needs it has become obvious to me that none of them are of necessity whatsoever.

In abandoning what I thought I needed I have been brought back to the reality that I am already whole. Previously, it was the very action of reaching out for what I thought I needed that compounded me in the feeling that something was missing. The reality is that nothing is missing and therefore nothing is needed. This is the simple realisation that allows for the deepest connection with another human being. It allows for a connection that is pure, not tainted by the reaching out and trying to take something from another.

When I first created this website in September of 2009 it was aimed at being a guide to getting women in to bed in, more or less, an honest fashion. Thankfully, as I have evolved so has the website and so has its motives. The purpose of this website is to draw you back to the recognition of your wholeness. For it is in feeling your fullness totally that you will meet your match. Only this will lead you to a truly happy communion with a woman, unadulterated by the want and need that makes any relationship destined for pain and unhappiness.

“Being happy, making happy -this is the rhythm of love” -Nisargadatta