So, you can approach a woman confidently, banter with her, get her interested and get her number but she never answers the phone or calls back. Why?
The simple fact is that no matter how attractive, confident and charming you were at the time there still isn’t anything that really connects the two of you. This creates two major problems:
1) Even though she finds you attractive she still doesn’t feel she knows you very well. Therefore she is unsure about meeting you again.
2) She assumes that since you don’t really know her that well, the only reason that you must be interested in her is for her looks. Consequently, she assumes that you’re probably just after sex.
Lucky for you this problem can be easily solved and transform your dating life. The solution requires a little bit more effort on your part in getting to know her, and not just on a superficial level but on a deeper level also.
Getting to know someone well requires talking about more than just the what your favourite chocolate bar is. The key is to ask questions that will allow her to reveal herself and her character to you. For instance:
-What’s the one thing you love to do? What’s your passion in life?
Sometimes women might not open up straight away, and if they don’t then it’s a chance for you to open up first. If you reveal something about yourself then she is sure to follow. As the conversation moves forward you will both share personal things with each other and get to know each other on a deeper level.
When she reveals those aspects of her inner self that interest you, you can let her know what it is that you like about her. At this point she will see that you have an interest in her that is deeper than just looks and feel comfortable that you’re not just after sex.
There is a real beauty in building a genuine connection with someone. In fact, really creating an emotional connection with a woman is one of the most amazing feelings there is.
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Sebastian Callow is a personal dating coach for men in London. Unlike other dating services he provides a practical, real-life coaching experience that actually involves meeting and interacting with women in everyday situations. Sebastian helps men develop the comfort and ease to express themselves with raw honesty. If you're unhappy with your dating life and you're hungry for change, the Personal Coaching Course could be exactly what you need.
Good one.
I am even kind of stuck in itself of myself. With some experience you are able to do the first things and then its exactly how you write it. I dont event try to call anymore if we didnt have an instant date or a conversation more then 20 mins. So my experience is absolutelly the same: Approach, talk for 10 mins, try to move to a coffee shop, stay one hour with her and you are in. Now as I write it , I kind of recognize that this first steps and specially the instant date are probably the hardest thing in the hole seduction process. Once you have the second date its only the matter not to fuck it up all the other stuff is just following the rules. I have to admit, your posts are finally the ones I looked for, realistic and without any try to sell me something… 😉 .