One of the things that guys consistently struggle with when attempting to attract women is that they lack the ability to flirt. The conversation is flat, stale and she doesn’t feel any emotional spikes whatsoever. Is it any wonder that that women often make excuses about how they have to meet their friends, or say they need to go to the toilet to escape this mundane conversation? Not really!
The ability to flirt is essential in order to keep things interesting, not for her but for you! If you are enjoying the conversation then so will she. Consequently, your interactions will always be successful.
“Success is not they key to happiness, happiness is the key to success. When you enjoy what you do you will be successful.” -Herman Cain
Most guys get this the wrong way around, they act like a clown or say things they think she will find funny to try and gain approval. Women will never be attracted to a man who is trying to validate himself externally. When it comes to flirting, instead of trying to say things to amuse her why not amuse yourself? You’ll be enjoying yourself and she will be drawn into that.
Here are some examples of things that I might use to amuse myself in conversation:
Me: Where are you from?
Her: The Caribean.
Me: Me too, what a coincidence! Which part of the Carribean are you from?
Me: The same as me…in fact, I used to live next door to you, don’t you remember? Anytime you needed rice or plantain I used to just bring it straight around.
Me: So tell me about you, what do you do for a living?
Her: I’m a nurse.
Me: Awesome, you’re someone who puts back into society, someone who’s rich in spirit, you’re perfect marriage material…don’t worry I only want 16 children. You can manage that right?
Me: You’re adorable in that little red hat there.
Me: I want to wrap you up in wrapping paper and take you home with me, then I’ll unravel you and it’ll be like Christmas all over again but better!
Me: You’re from Italy?
Me: Okay, so you came here for the sun and the fantastic food?
Her: (Laughs) Exactly.
Me: And of course, the handsome Englishmen…and here I am!
Remember, these are just examples of things I find funny so they might not work for you. Think about what amuses you and then next time you have a conversation with an attractive woman just go ahead and amuse yourself.
You might be surprised at the results 😉
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