Ever found yourself having a conversation with a beautiful woman and feeling that you were unable to get the right words out?
Not feeling as though you can keep a conversation going or that everything you say is inadequate is one of the most common problems guys face when talking to women. The question “what do I say next?” is all too familiar for guys who are trying to improve their ability to connect.
The most important step towards resolving this problem is to focus on being in the moment and accepting the interaction as it happens. As soon as your head becomes clouded with thoughts like “what should I say next”, or “I can’t think of anything to say”, you can be sure that you won’t find the right words. However, if you can accept every moment as it comes then you will give yourself the creative freedom to continue with the conversational flow.
Once you have learned to accept every moment as it comes you can then focus on developing your conversational skill by asking questions, followed by making statements.
By doing this you avoid being caught up in a question train whereby you ask one question after another and place all the pressure on the woman that you’re talking to to lead the conversation. If she doesn’t produce lengthy answers then the conversation will feel very boring and she will blame you, and rightly so. As a man it is your job to lead the conversation.
By interspersing statements between your questions you ensure that even if you’re receiving very limited answers you can still carry the conversation. The statements that you make can either be related to the response that she gives you, or related to the question that you asked, or both.
Since you are in control of whatever questions you ask you should always have something to say because you can always ask questions about topics you have something to talk about. Don’t ask questions that you; a) are not interested in knowing the answers to, or, b) are about topics on which you have nothing to say.
As with every aspect of your dating life practice makes perfect! So, if your not great at keeping a conversation going then you need to get into more conversations. Your social muscles need to be worked as often as possible.
Want to get your dating life handled?
Sebastian Callow is a personal dating coach for men in London. Unlike other dating services he provides a practical, real-life coaching experience that actually involves meeting and interacting with women in everyday situations. Sebastian helps men develop the comfort and ease to express themselves with raw honesty. If you're unhappy with your dating life and you're hungry for change, the Personal Coaching Course could be exactly what you need.