A common mistake guys make when relating to women is in misreading the context of the interaction. Women are amazing and wonderful creatures and often they don’t say exactly what they mean. However, us men, being the docile and unintelligent beings we often are, will take the words that come from a woman’s mouth quite literally. We even do this despite the fact a woman’s actions will often contradict what she says.
Ever had the experience of any of the following?
-A girlfriend or female friend acting really unhappy despite repeatedly stating she’s fine.
-A woman telling you she’s not looking to hook up with anyone despite outrageously flirting with you.
-A girlfriend telling you in the heat of an argument she doesn’t love you anymore, and then a day later telling you she loves you more than anything.
These are obvious examples of when a woman says something which she doesn’t really mean. However, often women will say things they don’t mean and it’s somewhat more difficult to decipher the truth.
In any, and all cases, remember to pay more attention to her actions than her words because these will reveal the real truth behind her feelings. This is particularly important in a bar/club environment.
Sometimes a woman will talk in a non-promiscuous manner in front of her friends whilst simultaneously signalling that she likes you. Sometimes she will throw out teases to see how you react despite the fact she is interested in you. Sometimes she will even outright say she has no interest in you even when she does.
Always read the actions and not the words. If a woman is still standing there talking to you after you’ve started chatting her up then chances are she’s, at the very least, curious about you. If she wasn’t it would be very easy for her to make an excuse and leave.
The more you pay attention to actions and not words the better your success will be.
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