Today I want to talk about the critical mechanics of delivering a really genuine direct opener or compliment. In one sense there are no “mechanics” to delivering a direct opener or compliment, you just communicate straight from the heart and allow the way that you feel about someone to flow out of you and express itself in words.
However, certain things do tend to take place when you do this and in noticing them you can become aware of whether you’re being sincere or whether something is preventing sincerity from flowing out of you. Two things in particular I’d like to pinpoint are laser eye contact and a genuine smile.
Whenever you say something really authentic and honest you maintain a really solid eye contact, this lets the person you’re communicating with know that you’re speaking the truth. This eye contact is all the more powerful when it is accompanied by a compliment because it will evoke a positive emotion for whoever is on the receiving end. The recipient of this eye contact will see that they are receiving a really genuine compliment. The more piercing the eye contact is the more emotional it will make the recipient feel.
Whenever you communicate something that makes you happy you always do so with a smile. It lets people know that it pleases you to talk about certain subjects. Consequently, it’s very powerful to smile when you deliver a compliment because it shows that it pleases you to express exactly what’s on your mind, and also that making others happy makes you happy.
If you ever find that you’re unable to hold eye contact and a smile when delivering a compliment it might indicate that you are either; 1) being disingenuous, or 2) not quite at ease with yourself to say exactly what’s on your mind.
If it’s the case that you’re not being genuine you should simply consider what you say more carefully and always communicate from the heart, as opposed to saying something just to get a particular reaction.
And if it’s the case that you’re not quite at ease with yourself to say exactly what’s on your mind then you should practice delivering genuine compliments until you become at ease with it.
Try telling the next 20 absolutely gorgeous women that you meet, “you know I wouldn’t be able to forgive myself if I didn’t tell you that you’re absolutely gorgeous”, and do it with laser eye contact and a genuine smile.
Once you master this your going to make a lot of women very happy 😉
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