Probably the most common question guys ask when it comes to meeting and attracting women is “what do I say?”. Of course, this is a very important question, and it is the man’s job to start and lead the conversation in the direction he wants it to go. However, a good measure of how successful an interaction is going is often in how much listening the man gets to do.
Initially, when a guy starts a conversation with a woman she might not put much investment into it, merely replying with only a few words. However, as the guy demonstrates the ability to carry the conversation and showcase his personality the woman will begin to invest more and more. When it gets to the point that the woman is doing most of the talking then you know that you’re making good progress.
This is even more important later in the interaction when you want to establish an emotional connection. When a woman begins to share with you those deeper things about herself and her life it’s your job to be a good listener. These things are rarely shared thoughtlessly or carelessly.
As a woman invests in you emotionally you become much closer to being someone significant in her life and you can move the relationship in whatever direction you’d like to take it into.
At any and all times pay attention. There’s nothing worse than forgetting important details that someone told you, in fact this will get you in serious trouble.
So remember, while it’s important to be a great talker it’s also important to be a great listener too!
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Good post.
I think that not only listening but also commenting on the things she shares strengthens the connection.