“Far better is it to dare mighty things, to win glorious triumphs, even though chequered by failure…than to rank with those poor spirits who neither enjoy much nor suffer much, because they live in a grey twilight that knows not victory nor defeat.” -Theodore Roosevelt
Ever wondered what the difference is between the guys who are really successful with women and the guys who just can’t seem to get any luck? The simple difference is that the guys who are successful are not afraid to fail! Successful guys have failed time and time again. They have messed up so badly on so many occasions that several realisations have occurred.
First, they’ve realised that failure is irrelevant, it bears no indication on who they are whatsoever. Second, they’ve recognised that every time they fail there is the opportunity for learning and growth. Third, they’ve realised that he who dares wins, in order to taste great victory you must also taste great defeat.
“You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take” -Wayne Gretzky
Once upon a time I wasn’t too good at meeting women, but I made the decision that I was going to get that fixed. I went out 3-4 times a week for several hours at a time and approached every beautiful woman I saw. I was so bad it took me 18 months of doing this to establish a sexual relationship! I had some dramatic failures during this time, but since then I’ve had some remarkable success. I still fail today, but not half as much as I succeed.
During the time when I decided I since I decided I wanted to relate to women in a more powerful way up until now I have had the experience of walking up to a woman and accidentally spitting in her face when I started talking, and consequently being sent packing!
I’ve also the experience of stopping a 5″11 eastern European model and former Miss Moldova in the middle of Regent Street, sweeping her off her feet and having sex with her two days later in her swanky west London apartment.
Most likely, neither of these memories would exist without the other. Which one do you think I spend most time reminiscing over? Stop being overcome by fear and get out of the grey, comfort zone. Start to taste both great success and great failure!
The fastest route to improving your dating life is the route of bravery. Be brave!
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Sebastian Callow is a personal dating coach for men in London. Unlike other dating services he provides a practical, real-life coaching experience that actually involves meeting and interacting with women in everyday situations. Sebastian helps men develop the comfort and ease to express themselves with raw honesty. If you're unhappy with your dating life and you're hungry for change, the Personal Coaching Course could be exactly what you need.