A lot of the time women have a lot of rules when it comes to meeting guys, and this is particularly true of very attractive women. One rule woman often try to stick to is, “I don’t give out my phone number to guys I don’t really know”, and there’s a very good reason for this.
Beautiful women are asked for their number on a regular basis and somewhere along the line they gave their number to a guy who kept trying to call her even after she made it clear not to. Consequently, she decided to enforce the no-number policy.
As a result of this sometimes some women will be unsure about giving you their number even when they really like you, and in the end they’ll often revert back to the no-number policy. The situation often plays out a little like this:
Guy: Your adorable, what’s the best way for us to keep in contact?
Woman: Oh! I don’t give out my phone number to guys I don’t know, sorry.
At this point the guy either gets all whiney, saying “why not? why not?”, or he’s internally affected and then draws a blank -he doesn’t know what to say. The best way to negotiate this situation is to display social intelligence, let her know you understand why she’s being like this:
Guy: Okay I understand, your a beautiful woman and guys probably want your number all the time. If you gave it out every time you’d have a million and one guys calling you up.
From here, you need to distinguish yourself from “all the other guys” who try to get her number. Up until this point if you’ve done everything right you’ve shared a few jokes and built a bit of a connection, more so than every other guy, so don’t be afraid to remind her of that:
Guy: On the other hand we’ve been talking for a while, you seem to like me and I definitely like you…
Guy: And hey, if we always resist letting in all the wonderful people we meet in our lives from here on in, our lives will be a lot less interesting as a result.
Woman: That’s true, but I just don’t normally give out my number.
At this point you just need to frame it in such a way that she feels really comfortable to hand over the number. Let her know that your a safe bet:
Guy: Let me put it to you like this, I like you and I’d like to get to know you a little more and I know you’re at least a little curious to get to know me. How about we exchange phone numbers and if we like each other on the phone then maybe we’ll hang out, if you’re not so keen over the phone then just block my number… I’m a big boy, I’ll get over it!
Woman: Ha, ha! Okay, I guess we can see what happens.
This example represents the most resistance your likely to get from a woman who employs the no-number policy. By displaying social intelligence and persevering in a manner that makes her feel comfortable you can still succeed where others might fail.
Social intelligence is the sign of a leader and consequently very attractive, and social comfort is something which a woman needs to feel for an interaction to progress. Always remember this and you’ll make every aspect of your interactions more likely to succeed, not just getting the phone number 😉
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