If there’s one thing that really gets a woman to open up it’s humor. Even the frostiest of receptions can be warmed up with a good bit of banter delivered at the right time and said with a cheeky smile.
If a woman is completely unreceptive initially a little humour can open her up enough to engage her in conversation. If she’s just a little bit cautious then a joke can make her really relax into the conversation. And if she’s already enjoying the conversation then a little bit of banter can really peak her interest in you and create a some sexual tension. Truly, humour is one of your greatest assets when it comes being charismatic.
It’s far too common that guys communicate in a manner that’s flat and stale and turns the woman off, even if she might have otherwise been interested. If the interaction has no emotional spikes you can be sure that there will be a deadening of attraction.
Upon recognising this it should also be recognised that there can be a reviving of attraction through the use of humour, whereby the woman becomes interested when otherwise she might not have been.
This is why it’s so critical not to give up at the very first sign of disinterest. Humour allows you to be persistent in a charming manner, as opposed to being pushy. I can remember countless interactions where initially the woman was very much unreceptive and through the use of humour she warmed up.
Here’s an example of a little bit of humour I’ve used in the past to open up a conversation when the woman was trying to shut it down:
Me: Hey, I know this is random but I’m curious about you I just wanted to come say hi! My name’s Sebastian!
Woman: I’m not really in the best mood to talk, I’m tired and I’ve had a bad day.
Me: Don’t worry I have healing powers, I’ll rejuvenate you! I have a very soothing aura, you’ll benefit from talking to me.
Woman: (smiles)
Me: See, your smiling already. I’m like a modern day mystic, even Jesus wasn’t this good!
Woman: (laughs)
Me: What’s your name?
Woman: I’m Sarah.
I had a student recently who gave me another great example of how to use humour to warm up a frosty reception. It’s great when my students are the ones that teach me! Here’s what he said:
Him: Hey, I just saw you here and you look really cute, I just wanted to come and say hi!
Her: Oh, I can’t really talk now I’m waiting for someone and I can’t find her.
Him: Well, your in luck cause I’m a detective and I specialise in tracking down missing people. I’m off duty now but I’m gonna help you out all the same.
Her: (laughs)
Next time your having a conversation with a woman and she’s a little bit frosty, try injecting a little bit of humour into the conversation and see what happens. It’s unrealistic to expect anyone and everyone to warm up to you but many will, particularly if you say something that amuses you.
Make yourself smile and she will too. Happy New Year!
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Sebastian Callow is a personal dating coach for men in London. Unlike other dating services he provides a practical, real-life coaching experience that actually involves meeting and interacting with women in everyday situations. Sebastian helps men develop the comfort and ease to express themselves with raw honesty. If you're unhappy with your dating life and you're hungry for change, the Personal Coaching Course could be exactly what you need.