There’s a fundamental difference I’ve noticed between the guys I know who enjoy happy, healthy sexual relationships and the guys who don’t. That difference is in how much they really appreciate women. Be careful that you are not one of the guys who falls into the wrong category!
You might have a deep longing for women but for the wrong reasons. You might desire women in your life because it’ll mean something special about you and who you are. If this is the case then you are trying to acquire status from women. You don’t even consider what the circumstances of the women you relate to are because you’re so self involved with the story of you.
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If this is the case your lack of success will be due to the fact that your motivations are entirely selfish. However, over time you’ll begin to blame your lack of success on the women themselves. This often results in accusations claiming women are bitchy and rude.
In reality, women are only bitchy or rude because they can see straight through the selfish motivations of men. If you knew someone was just trying to hook up with you because it would make them look and feel good, and that this person actually had no interest in you, how would you react? Probably the same way!
However, if you can get in touch with your appreciation of women then you can embrace a completely different dynamic. You’ll want women in your life so that both you and the women you interact with can mutually benefit from being in each others company. You’ll want to celebrate the differences between yourself and the women you relate to and revel in the dynamic exchange of energy that comes from being in contact with them. In this case you’ll be too enamoured and in love with women to be concerned with what having them in your life says about you.
Consequently, this genuineness and authenticity will resonate with the the women you interact with, and they will respond in kind with genuineness and authenticity back. When your motivations are pure you rarely experience the bitchiness and negativity that is reflected back when your motives are impure.
Get in touch with your appreciation. Make a list of all the amazing qualities that are indicative of the female character and consider just how much you appreciate those qualities.
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Sebastian Callow is a personal dating coach for men in London. Unlike other dating services he provides a practical, real-life coaching experience that actually involves meeting and interacting with women in everyday situations. Sebastian helps men develop the comfort and ease to express themselves with raw honesty. If you're unhappy with your dating life and you're hungry for change, the Personal Coaching Course could be exactly what you need.
Hi Sebastian,
I have just come across your site today and I have to say I really like what you write about and your philosophy. I absolutely love women. I am surrounded by them. I am the only man left in my family. I have a lot of female friends and I date quality women. And although I still have time for the boys, you will usually see me out on the town with a woman. The reason being is that I can’t get enough of them. In many ways they are stronger than men and way, way more emotionally intelligent.
I have learned a lot from all the material I have read on “Game”, websites and some of the forums etc. that I read on an ongoing basis. But I still feel that I have learned most of what I know from the women in my life. Too many guys forget that women are flesh and blood just like us guys. They are people with all sorts of things going on their lives.
I am completely put off by this technical speak – Sets, HB9, AFC etc. These guys are so focused on this stuff that they are forgetting to have fun. Because meeting new women and dating them is meant to be fun. It all boils down to throwing yourself in front of the truck and learning from your mistakes by putting your ego aside. That is how you truly become good WITH women, but above all good FOR women.
I way prefer being a genuine man of substance rather than a disingenuous social robot.
Regards,
B
Hey B,
Thanks for your comment. And “Amen” to everything you wrote! It’s great to see that there are some guys out there who have the right mindset!
Seb