When a man approaches a woman and his approach fails to galvanise the attention and attraction of that woman, it’s usually because of one simple problem -he lacks commitment.
He approaches with 50 or 60 percent commitment, and consequently that approach lacks any clarity or conviction. From the words that are spoken, to the eye contact, to the smile, and all the way down to the tone of the voice, the approach is weak.
In order for an approach to sweep a woman off her feet it requires total commitment. Without total commitment a you’re relying on nothing but hope. History has some great examples of what it means to be totally committed.
More than 300 years before Christ, Alexander the Great crossed from Europe into Asia on his path towards conquering Persia. On the shores of the Asia Minor he ordered the boats that were his army’s sole means of retreat to be burned.
This is total commitment!
When you approach a woman you need to burn your boats, so that there is no avenue for retreat. Starting a conversation under some bullshit false pretence is simply not going to cut it. You have to march over and call it exactly how it is.
“Hey! I HAD to meet you!”
Not only do you need to state your intentions with total commitment verbally, but you need to communicate total commitment through your eye contact, smile, body language and tonality. When Alexander the Great ordered the burning of the boats he only had one outcome in mind, the only alternative was death.
When you approach a woman you should have only one outcome in mind. If that outcome doesn’t materialise then you face rejection, which is the death of your ego. The willingness to face this death shows great character!
This is the kind of character that a woman will yield to.
This is the kind of character that a woman can trust.
A woman cannot trust a man who doesn’t have the courage to approach her with total commitment or the clarity to say exactly what’s on his mind, because in truth, that man does not trust himself.
“If you want to take the island, then burn your boats. With absolute commitment come the insights that create real victory.” -Tony Robbins
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Sebastian Callow is a personal dating coach for men in London. Unlike other dating services he provides a practical, real-life coaching experience that actually involves meeting and interacting with women in everyday situations. Sebastian helps men develop the comfort and ease to express themselves with raw honesty. If you're unhappy with your dating life and you're hungry for change, the Personal Coaching Course could be exactly what you need.
It’s great to see someone who ‘gets it.’ Great stuff.