If you’re looking for love then you’re looking for a relationship in which both you, and the woman you relate to, become more and more open to each other. You open through pain, you open through fear, and you open even though it feels safer to close down.
You keep opening and opening and opening. You open again and again until it’s absolutely clear that there is no separation between the two of you -that’s love!
If you are looking for this depth of openness and love then it’s best to start out on the right foot. In other words, when you approach a woman you should be completely open and raw about how she makes you feel. If you are driven to approach her because she radiates sensuality -tell her! If you were compelled to strike up a conversation because she looks absolutely adorable and you’d be kicking yourself if you didn’t say hello -tell her!
Usually, it feels a little scarier to start talking to a stranger using words that are absolutely real and heartfelt, but this really is starting out on the right foot. Have the courage to be open from the outset, and maintain the courage to keep opening and opening even in the face of adversity. This will help you to grow massively as an individual. More importantly, it will lead you closer and closer to love, depth and unity.
Conversely, closing down in the face of adversity will lead you to separation, isolation and pain. It is a simple choice, and much more easily written about then acted out, but if the desire for love is strong enough you will start openly and continue to open further.
“Desire is the starting point of all achievement, not a hope, not a wish, but a keen pulsating desire which transcends everything” -Napoleon Hill
If you desire love strongly enough it will transcend your fear of opening up.
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Sebastian Callow is a personal dating coach for men in London. Unlike other dating services he provides a practical, real-life coaching experience that actually involves meeting and interacting with women in everyday situations. Sebastian helps men develop the comfort and ease to express themselves with raw honesty. If you're unhappy with your dating life and you're hungry for change, the Personal Coaching Course could be exactly what you need.