If you ask a woman what she wants from a man you’ll often hear the response that she wants to be treated like a princess. She’ll tell you that she’s looking for someone who is kind and gentle and caring.
And yet, there’s a whole lot of “nice guys” out there who could fulfill this role more than adequately but are never given the chance, because women always see them more as friends than lovers. You might even be one of these guys yourself! So, what the hell is happening here!?!
Well, women aren’t lying when they say that they want to be treated well and taken care of. Of course they want this, but this doesn’t embody everything they’re looking for otherwise all these “nice guys” would have women lining up to date them.
Women don’t simply want a guy who is nice for the sake of being nice because that’s the only way he knows how to be, or a guy who is nice out of a perceived sense of obligation.
What they really want is a man who has the capacity to be kind and gentle and caring, but also the capacity to be dominant and purposeful and directive.
This kind of man chooses which mode of behaviour he will deploy, with whom, and according to the situation he is presented with. All of his actions, when directed towards his woman, will come from a place of love.
This will mean that he is kind and caring mostly but at times he will also be commanding and purposeful. This kind of “nice guy” can be as gentle as anyone but he also knows how to be a man.
When presented with adverse circumstances he also has a darker side and the capacity to kill! He is not the kind of man who has the capacity to threaten or kill his woman but the kind of man who has the capacity to kill in order to protect his woman.
He doesn’t just bumble through life being nice to everyone in any and all situations. When drastic action is called for he takes it!
He is capable of taking control of a situation and steering it in the right direction for himself and the good of all those concerned, especially his woman. The ways and means he uses to take control of a situation might not be “nice” but he does what he has to do.
A man who possesses such a dark side may or may not abuse it. However, if he does abuse it and begins to use his dark side to manipulate situations to serve his own ends at all times he becomes no better than the guy who only knows how to be nice. Each of them represent one side of the coin.
What a woman really wants is the “total package.”
She wants a man who is prepared to take control, a man who is prepared to do whatever needs to be done, not just for himself but also for her. And equally, she wants a man who is gallant and respectful and who will make her feel as special as she is.
She wants the killer, but she wants the killer that will treat her like a queen.
She wants the nice guy, but she wants the nice guy who knows how not to be nice.
This is the kind of “nice guy” who doesn’t finish last. In fact he sits at the top of the podium as a woman’s first choice.
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