I have a confession to make… I went out recently with a close friend to practice the art of striking up conversations with strangers, and rather than storming into the interactions like a force of nature and leaving behind me a whirlwind of awesomeness, I was, well, like a limp dick!
I was totally unable to penetrate the interactions with full force and lacked the presence needed to create any kind of impact. The interactions were not particularly sexually charged, not particularly playful, in fact, they weren’t particularly anything.
I’d been sleeping on my friends floor for three nights in a row and I hadn’t been home to recharge myself with some decent rest and good food. This left me feeling tired and depleted and lacking the energetic force to fully commit to my interactions. It was a great reminder of the importance of COMMITMENT!
Commitment can be lacking for a number of reasons, lack of energy being just one of them. More commonly guys lack commitment because they’re afraid to put their balls on the chopping block, afraid of being rejected. Alternatively, they might lack commitment because they’re not completely in touch with the purpose of their actions, and when absent of purpose being fully committed is impossible.
Whatever the reason, a lack of commitment to an interaction results in a very blunt interaction indeed, without it you have no cutting edge whatsoever.
As a man, one of the core characteristics of your masculinity is to act with direction and purpose. To be specific, part of your core masculine essence is to be able to penetrate! And I’m not simply referring to the role a man performs sexually.
A man should be able to penetrate an interaction with strong and direct eye contact.
A man should be able to penetrate an interaction with incisive humour and teasing.
A man should be able to penetrate an interaction with the direct and explicit expression of his sexuality, conveyed through both his words and his actions.
A man should be able to penetrate an interaction with every bit of his presence so that his masculinity is shining forth.
However, none of this is possible without commitment. Without commitment a man doesn’t have the purpose and direction to perform any kind of penetration. Without commitment his masculinity is blinkered.
Ever tried to have sex without being totally committed?
Ever tried to have sex with a half-limp dick?
Doesn’t work too well does it!
This is exactly how it is when you don’t fully commit to an interaction. You’re literally like a limp dick flailing in the wind! You have no purpose, no direction, no impact!
For this reason you should make sure that you fully commit yourself to an interaction 100% or don’t commit yourself at all.
If you’re exhausted and need recharging and the very sight of an attractive woman cannot stimulate you enough to take committed action, get some rest and take action on another occasion when you can be fully committed.
If you’re afraid of rejection, recognise clearly that this fear will never be overcome without direct confrontation, and go ahead and confront that fear head-on, with 100% commitment.
If you’re unclear about your purpose, get some clarity and then act with full force. Whether your intention is to create a sexual relationship or to just put a smile on someones face, get in touch with that intention and be committed.
In summary, act with full force and total commitment, and don’t be a limp dick!
End of rant 🙂
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