How do you win at life? How do you succeed in every little thing you do?
Well, first off, let me tell you how you don’t win, let me tell you how you don’t succeed.
You don’t succeed by being a whinging, whiney, little bitch and complaining about how the world is against you. You don’t succeed by talking about all the ways the odds are NOT stacked in your favour. You don’t succeed by placing emphasis on the influences of others, of circumstances, of situations, of whatever is external to yourself.
You succeed, quite simply, by taking responsibility for YOU, for whatever YOU can control.
I call this The Tao of Responsibility, or, in other words, the path of self-responsibility.
If you always take responsibility for whatever you can do better, whatever you can change in response to your environment, whatever you can adapt within your situation, whatever you can control within your relationships, you simply cannot fail to achieve your optimal potential.
The trouble is, more-often-than-not, you don’t do this. You play the blame game whereby everything that happens to you is the result of everything outside of your control. You play the role of being the victim; the victim of your environment, the victim of your situations, the victim of your relationships.
And every time you put yourself in the role of the victim you imprison yourself in a position of inaction. What would be the point in taking action when you believe you are the victim of that which you cannot change?
However, the truth is that it isn’t the circumstances of your life that need changing, it’s your mindset! Just as soon as you shift out of being the victim and start taking responsibility for whatever YOU CAN do, the whole situation is flipped on it’s head.
No longer are you imprisoned, you are set free.
No longer are you the victim of the story, you are the hero that affects change in it.
Once you move away from the tired, old story of not having the time to cook healthy food or exercise and take responsibility for eating well and exercising regularly, you move away from being exhausted and out-of-shape and toward being energised and sexy.
Once you let go of the idea that you can’t make a living doing what you love because there’s no market for it and take responsibility for finding the outlet for your passion, you transcend being another rat in the rat-race of life and embrace giving your deepest gifts to the world.
Once you forgo the ‘poor me’ rationale that you can’t find the right relationship because you weren’t blessed with good looks and take responsibility for becoming more confident and charismatic, you move past being a hopeless ‘undatable’ and become a man with a wealth of relationship options.
To be clear, The Tao of Responsibility does not mean that you are to blame for whatever your situation is. It does not afford you the opportunity to beat yourself up and get down on yourself for not being where you want to be.
The Tao of Responsibility is grounded in acceptance and forgiveness. Acceptance and forgiveness for the fact that your life history and all the experiences you’ve been subjected to until now, even as far back as in the womb, have led you to being where you are.
The Tao of Responsibility does, henceforth, make you accountable for facilitating change in every area of your life and transcendent of being a victim of circumstance. For once you have stepped outside of the frame of reality where you see yourself as life’s sacrificial lamb, it’s inevitable that you will take life by the horns.
Not your circumstances. Not your situation. Not your relationships.
Are responsible for you meeting your goals from this moment forward.
You are the hero and saving grace of your own personal life story.
Welcome to the Tao of Responsibility.
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