If you want to achieve your goals you know what you have to do. Or, at the very least, you have a good idea.
And you damn sure know what you shouldn’t be doing. But, chances are, you continue to to do it day in and day out, whilst the weeks, months and years fall away like the leaves from the autumnal trees.
You’re going nowhere, and you’re travelling at a pace that’s surprisingly fast. Pretty soon you’ll be old, really old! And then dead!
If you don’t take a good look in the mirror, slap yourself in the face, give yourself a damn, good talking to and change your ways it’s going to be too late.
So… Why? Why do you persist in the process of stagnation? The non-action of not removing your ass from the imprint it’s left on your sofa and doing what needs to be done?
It’s not because you don’t want success. You do want success! In fact, you probably want it pretty badly. You probably dream of a day when you’re not caught in the grip of fear and your interactions with women aren’t riddled with anxiety. You probably dream of a day when you’ve forged a deep connection with a woman you truly love. The desire is strong.
But, here’s the thing.
The thing is, change cannot happen until you reach a certain tipping point. Change will never manifest until the point where the desire to succeed is SIGNIFICANTLY GREATER than the comfort of not taking action.
And here’s the problem.
The problem is, the comfort zone that modern men reside in is absolutley huge. It’s massive! It’s like a giant, cavernous, warm jacuzzi that no one ever wants to leave. It’s all-encompassing and you’re swallowed up by it. The comfort of not taking action is just too great because your comfort zone is oh-so comfy!
You have any movie you want at the press of a finger tip on your laptop, you have the latest and greatest cutting edge video games on your playstation, you have a six-pac of stella artois waiting for you in the fridge, you have 3 different Chinese takeaways and 5 different Indian’s ready to bring you a delivery, you have 21 different thumbnails on your computer screen linking you to more extreme sex acts than you have time to consume.
What’s more, you have a circle of friends who are just as dissatisfied with life as you and ready to come around and take part in whatever distractions you desire.
Why on earth would you remove your ass from the well-worn ass print in your sofa when you are so damn comfortable?
The desire for change, the desire to take on your goals and get out of the house and lean into your fear would have to be damn strong to compete with a comfort zone that is so incredibly comfortable.
The hunger for freedom, the hunger for connection, the hunger to lean into your edge… would have to be insatiable!
And if it isn’t?
Well, if it isn’t, may as well just crack open another stella, recline the sofa, finish that game of Call of Duty, order an MSG riddled chicken-chow-mien, masturbate over some poor girl getting jizzed on by 5 different guys, and then call a buddy and take solace in the fact that he’s going nowhere just like you.
Pathetic!
Before you go ahead and distract yourself with the next thing on the laundry list of ‘lets-do-whatever-it-takes-to-forget-I’m-wasting-my-life’, just pause.
Stop, and take a breath.
Turn everything off and be silent.
Breathe into your belly and your chest.
Connect with the inner body.
Be still.
Can you feel it?
I know you can’t usually because you’re constantly so distracted, but can you feel it now?
Can you feel the sense of discontent? The discontent that you’re wasting your life away, that you’re running from your dreams, that you’re acting life out as a shell of what you’re truly capable of?
It’s there! Deep down, it’s there!
Take your time and feel it fully. Allow it to grow. Allow it to churn up inside of you. Allow it to get you angry. Allow it to get you motivated. Allow it to get you crazy.
This is the fuel to your fire.
This is what you need to propel yourself from just wanting change, which will get you nowhere, to burning for change, which will propel you out of your cavernous zone of comfort and luxury and fire you into action.
You’re better than the way you’re living right now. You’re better than that and you know it. Feel how much it burns you to know that, to understand the truth of that.
You’re going to be old and dead before long.
Now! Not tomorrow. Not next week. Not after you’ve finished that game of Grand Theft Auto. Not after you’ve had one last porn-induced ejaculation.
Now is the time for change!
Stop. Being. So. Comfortable.
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