About Sebastian

Sebastian is the founder of Authentic Man Within (AMW) at www.authenticmanwithin.com. AMW is a dating advice and coaching service that helps men become more courageous, more socially intuitive, more authentic, happier and healthier.

It was set up by Sebastian in September 2009 as a result of his continuing exploration of dating and social dynamics, and in response to the growing need for men to embrace their masculine core and connect with women face-to-face rather than hide behind their computer screens and play the online dating game.

AMW has been growing ever since, attracting clients from all parts of the UK, Europe and even the USA. Unlike other dating services, AMW provides a practical, real-life coaching experience. Clients receive first-hand, live demonstrations of how to start conversations with women and are invited to do the same under constructive supervision.

As the founder and primary Dating Coach at AMW, Sebastian has a great history of exploring social psychology and social dynamics, both in theory and through his life experience. An Applied Psychology graduate from the University of Durham and an aspiring Psychotherapist, Sebastian has also spent 4 years working in the face-to-face fundraising industry.

This means, on top of his theoretical understanding of human behaviour, he has spent 4 years starting conversation with strangers, for 8 hours a day and five days a week. Throughout this period he also worked as a Team Leader, coaching other people to do the same each and every day.

Subsequently, he has attained four years experience working directly with men to help them awaken the courage and conviction to reach out and connect with women in a more powerful way, and receives glowing reviews. His style of interaction, and the one he tries to instill in his clients, is one of being direct, playful, curious and authentic.

Sebastian feels that when a man’s external expressions most closely match his internal state, he will communicate with the most power, clarity and depth. In-turn, he will generate the highest levels of attraction and connection with the women he relates to, and his comfort and ease within himself will be at a premium.

Moreover, Sebastian feels that by starting conversations with women in an honest and authentic manner, a man can lay the best foundation for establishing a healthy relationship that is nourishing at the deepest levels for everyone concerned.

Sebastian understands the trials and tribulations modern men face in the dating game, all the more so as he himself has experienced these problems first hand, describing himself very much as a late bloomer:

“I’m 31 years old now and I wasn’t always successful with women. At 19 I was still a virgin and at 25 I found myself in the midst of a very long spell of unintentional celibacy. At this stage I had begun to invest a whole lot of time in learning how to relate to women in a more powerful way.

I would spend my free time going out three to four times a week, for several hours on each occasion, and starting conversations with every attractive woman I came across.

After a lot of stress and strain I became pretty successful at getting what I thought I wanted. However, I soon realised that I wanted more than just sex, and that the need for sex often had a corrosive effect on my interactions. I would often lose out with the women who I was really attracted to.

I found that the answer to deep connection was to abandon all need; the need to have sex, the need for female attention, and the need to be seen as someone who is successful with women.

In abandoning what I thought I needed I sunk back into my fullness, feeling absolutely whole and absolutely satisfied. The feeling of contentment, absent of need, is what allows for the deepest connection with another human being.

And paradoxically, the lack of attachment to any particular outcome, allows for whatever outcome is desired, to be fulfilled.”

Sebastian is AMW’s resident expert when it comes to creating a deep emotional connection with women. He has written over 90 articles on the AMW blog on dating, social dynamics, relationships and psychology.

His writing strikes at the heart of the problems that modern men face when it comes to relating to women and has been featured in a diverse array of publications, from Ebony Magazine to the work of Laura Schaefer who regularly writes for Match.com.

Sebastian firmly believes that men already have everything they need to succeed in the dating game, it’s just a case of awakening the Authentic Man Within.

In each and every man lies depths of courageousness, spontaneity and authenticity. Sebastian aims to point men back toward these innate strengths so that they can enliven themselves and the women they interact with.

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