SEX IS NOT THE GOAL! The men’s dating and self-improvement community is very confused. It’s focus is skewed towards sex, the ability to acquire sex, being a ‘sex-worthy’ man, letting your authentic self out so you can have more sex… Put it any way you want it, it’s all about sex! Even the guys who […]
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If you’re familiar with the world of men’s self-development or even spirituality, you’ve probably found yourself learning about concepts like being unattached, outcome independent and unreactive. Like all concepts they are but a poor translation of what they hope to illustrate. More-often-than-not these concepts are misinterpreted to fit in with the fearful perspective of the one […]
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A warrior is defined as: “A person who fights in battles and is known for having courage and skill.” And what does being a warrior have to do with relationships which are supposed to be about love and intimacy? Well, when two people agree to play the game of mutual openness and intimacy it is […]
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Working as a dating coach in London I regularly come across guys who are looking for the magic technique, the perfect line, that one thing that’ll help them to be impressive, impactful and unforgettable. The first thing to note here is that such a search is doomed from the outset, for if you have the […]
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As a Dating Coach in London, I’m hesitant to offer the advice to ‘just be yourself’ in such simple terms. You’ve been being yourself throughout your life, right? And, to a great extent, you’re not getting the results you desire in dating and in life. You probably feel it’s time to try something different. But, […]
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As a dating coach in London, I’m presented with questions about the term ‘alpha male’ on a regular basis, most guys feeling that this is something they aspire to and must become. An ‘alpha male’ is defined as: “A male animal having the highest rank in a dominance hierarchy.” The term is typically used in reference to non-human apes and monkeys, where the ape/monkey who […]
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You don’t want to talk to that girl at the cafe because she might think you’re weird. You don’t want to talk to that girl at the bus stop because other people might hear and think it’s ‘not right’. You don’t want to talk to that girl at the club because other girls might think […]
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What’s the difference that makes the difference when it comes to winning at dating and relationships? Contrary to popular opinion it’s not your looks or how much money you have in your bank account, it’s not even your knowledge and understanding of male/female dynamics and the dating game. It is, quite simply, your self-esteem! No […]
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Everything is sexual… Everything! You’re very existence was brought about through the act of sex, and the survival of our species and every other species, plant or animal, is dependent on sex. Sex is the source and essence of life and it is self-evident wherever you choose to look. Everything is either an act of […]
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A lot of guys in the world of men’s self-improvement, dating coaching and pick-up appear to be pretty good at relating to women, at least, if you didn’t know any better. A closer inspection reveals the cracks that show a fragile sense of self and a huge level of discomfort in relating to women. What […]
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